nyyki

 
How does someone make you happy?
Treat me with respect, try to understand what I'm not saying that I should be, respect my boundaries, show me affection if you feel it.
If you are angry or hurting, what should we do? what should we *not* do?
Preach to me, invalidate my feelings, try to defend a position. I need to let off steam before I can negotiate. Also, it is best not to leave me alone to think about things, as I will spin inward and get even more angrier.
Are there things we should ~not~ discuss?
I'm pretty much open to anything as long as it's not overtly gross. I don't have much interest in serial killings or death. Also, talking about how great lawyers, politicians, or police are isn't going to win any points with me, as I fundamentally mistrust anyone who seeks that much power.

How do you want to be treated when you are sick?
Make sure I'm not dying, and make sure I am taking my meds, and then pretty much leave me alone. I heal best when I get lots of rest. When I get sick, I usually go hide somewhere and tend not to say anything about it.

What do you share with others?
Feelings, thoughts, spirit, just about everything. I'm a fairly open person.

What do you NOT share with others?
Pain, needs, weaknesses.

Are there times of year that are difficult for you?
I get pretty surly about two weeks before February 14 and for about a week afterward. I may get a bit wistful around April 20.

Are there important anniversaries that we should recognize in your life?
Nyykmas, of course. (February 28) Other than tat, not so much.

How does someone become your friend?
Be open, be friendly, and don't try to create a lot of drama.

How does someone lose you as a friend?
Play me against others or include me in your drama. Also, betrayal is an instant ticket out of the friends club. I trust everyone I meet until they betray me, and then I am incapable of trusting them ever again. The most recent person culled from my life relayed information that wasn't true to a friend to try to make me out to be the bad guy. Not only was it false, but if it had been true, it was not his place to say anything on my behalf. (Speaking for others is a big taboo for me)

Who are the most important people in your life to whom we should defer when making plans on your behalf?
Cuts_Inside, and my roommate are the main two.  These are just the two main people who will know what's going on with me. I have a lot more people I care deeply for, including Meghann, Runespinner, Ainaguar, Silver, (not on LJ) and Flaming Sword. (Who I got this from)

How would you like for us to recognize your birthday?
first off, call on the day.  IM's and emails and journal posts are okay, but I'd much rather hear your voice. I like spending time with friends. The stuff doesn't matter so much, but the contact and quality time does.

Are there standing categories of presents that would be welcome or inappropriate?
chocolate is always wonderful. Clothes are not, as I have no closet space. If you can get to my CD and DVD list, it's always a good place to find things. Gift cards to places to get CD's and movies are always great, as is Guitar Center, Home Depot, and other places where I can make my own decisions on things.

What are you most sensitive about?
My music. I don't mind if you don't like it, but saying it sucks is a lot more than saying you don't like it. Ditto about my writing. I have no use for destructive criticism, so if you have something to say, make sure it has some constructive elements or it will most likely get brushed aside.

What scares you?
I'm pretty nervous about the state of the nation right now, as we seem to be sinking into totalitarianism. I'm also scared of spending the rest of my life alone. (Wow, that was hard to get out) About the only other thing that scares me is my friend Dave's driving, and since I can't see anymore it isn't as bad for me now.

Other random info:
Though I come across a very logical, rational, even cerebral person, I am actually pretty emotive. It doesn't always come out, though. Also, I have a bad habit of offering helpt to others without asking for it when I need it, so sometimes my needs don't get met solely due to my inability to ask for help. I'm working on that, but it's a hard thing to overcome.